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Cake day: August 4th, 2023

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  • You see those fin-like bones that rise up from the skull? All of that is filled with the muscle that closes the jaw - technically the purpose of these bones is for the muscle to attach to. One bite will slice and crush anything of you that is in his mouth.

    Oh, and humans lack a type of fast-twitch muscle fibre that gorillas (and pretty much all non-human mammals) have. This makes their muscles a lot more powerful than ours, no matter what training you do. They will tire faster, but thats probably only during the stomp-on-your-bloody-remains part of the fight.

    Oh, and their reaction speed is also faster.

    Basically, you have zero chance going mano a mano with a gorilla.








  • As others have said, open communication is critical. It is necessary but not sufficient.

    You’ve probably been thinking through why you cheated and continued to cheat. However it can be really difficult to go deep get the true answer by yourself - brains tend to generate reasons/excuses in a way that minimizes your responsibility and preserves your ego as best it can. If you try to explain what happened to your wife and give a facile or self-serving excuse, you could make things far far worse.

    Many people find that the process of talking with a professional (a counsellor or therapist) can get deeper than doing this by yourself. You will get to a more profound and authentic understanding of yourself and of steps you can take to be the better person you want to become. By knowing yourself better you are able to properly apologise and explain to your wife why you betrayed her trust. You will also be able provide some evidence that you are not going to do this again. Broken trust takes a long time to repair - self discovery and improvement is a process, not a single event.

    Another thing to consider is whether you and your wife can have constructive conversations about what happened and what your hopes and wants are for the future. If conversations rapidly devolve into arguments and anger, it may make things worse (but every relationship is different). If you worry that those conversations may spiral out of control, or will not be productive, I’d suggest doing this with a neutral, professional third party like a relationship councillor who can facilitate the conversation.

    Those are a few ideas - they are certainly not comprehensive and YMMV.


  • Britain for most of the 20th Century did not have great food - by that I mean the kind of dishes you see in France, Italy, Spain and so on. However almost all food was cooked at home from fresh ingredients and so was relatively healthy - just highly unappealing to anyone who loves flavour, aroma, texture and appearance.

    Additionally, for a good portion of her life (1939 to 1954) and Britain was living with severe rationing which resulted in most people eating a lot more vegetables and little butter, lard and sugar. There was also rationing and hardships during the Great War and the Great Depression. While bad for food lovers, it was actually quite good for health.

    From the 1980s an increasing amount of the British diet became fast food, prepared meals and ultra-processed foods. These are the actively unhealthy bit of the current British diet.



  • Scientists only use terms like ultra processed food after defining them in their scientific papers. The problem here is that the media find it difficult to write a short article for the general audience if they have to define things scientifically.

    What specifically is bad about UPF foods is still being researched. A few leading ideas are:

    • Very little fibre
    • Starches are all immediately accessible to digestion and so blood glucose spikes much more than for the non-UPF equivalent
    • UPF foods are soft and dry (so weigh less) making it very easy to eat a lot very fast, so you eat too many calories.
    • Relatively high in salt and sugar
    • Use of emulsifiers. These may change your gut microbiota and also make your gut more leaky causing inflammation
    • Use of preservatives and artificial colours
    • Frequently have a lot of oil

    Low fibre, emulsifiers and preservatives, while lacking variety of phytochemicals found in fresh food is known to change your gut health. People on UPF diets tend to eat more and have higher blood glucose spikes leading to heart disease and diabetes.

    Altogether this is a recipe for a shorter, less healthy life