My first long term relationship was with a woman who could orgasm from penetration in less than a minute.
Excruciating period pain that would leave me fainting and vomiting every. Single. Time.
“Every girl goes through this” said the doctor, convincing my parents that I was just “dramatic”.
Turns out I had huge polyps growing out of control! Left scarring in my uterus and high-risk when pregnant.
Dealt with that hell every fucking month since I was 11 until I got onto birth control in my 20s.
Hey, I know this is random, but was the pain, like, in the lower abdomen and like… Not really a muscle cramp, but deeper?And did physical activty make it better or worse? Asking for a friend. 👀
Pain was deep, ye. Can’t answer the question about physical activity because it rendered me unable to do any! But, yes, exerting any kind of physical effort seemed to make it worse.
I would lie on the cold bathroom floor every month with a heating pad / hot water bottle on my stomach, but it gave little relief through the simultaneous hot flashes and cold sweats.
Two things that actually helped somewhat if I could catch it hours before it started were: eating bananas (I suspect potassium helped with cramping), and, weirdly… drinking pickle juice. Idk what that was about, but it worked.
But have “your friend” get checked for endometriosis and PCOS!!! That shit can actually escape your uterus and scar up / destroy your other organs!!! No joke!!!
She might just do that because your experience sounds very similar to her “stories.” She also can’t move when it happens and is left pretty hobbled until it passes, but moving makes it worse… So I’ve heard. 👀
Sucks when doctors just assume things, it can cost lives.
It’s barbaric. They assume that if you’re girl/woman, most problems are basically “female hysteria”!
Not even “it could be [blank], you might want to keep an eye on that and report back if it doesn’t go away.” Nope! Diagnosis: dramatic.
And women die from this shit. Or become disabled / handicapped. Or it affects their long-term future if they want children. It’s awful.
Some people did a thing with a specially configured tens machine where the woman would turn it the levels up and up until it was at the level of their normal period pain and then the man would go through the same levels stages and be gasping and writhing before it got there.
Turns out men have been massively underestimating period pain for centuries.
That said, some women experienced far, far higher levels than normal and were encouraged to take that data to a non-dismissive healthcare professional.
As a dude, I want to believe that it’s less than it is because that’s just wholly unreasonable that women have to put up with that.
My wife went through something similar. Took until she was in her 30s and we were pursuing IVF for someone to take her seriously and actually do the investigation to realize she had crazy scarring from endometriosis causing all kinds of issues.
It’s insane to me how much the modern medical community seems to normalize or straight up ignore this shit, like you said.
I realize we could have pushed harder, but when multiple doctors tell you “yeah, some women just experience periods differently, here’s 500mg Naproxen to help you through” you tend to believe it.
My pop history theory is that it’s a latent cultural memory of the Biblical tradition. Remember how Eve was cursed with the pain of childbirth after giving Adam the fruit? Western culture has a history of seeing women’s pain as a result of this ancient curse. Now, I imagine few doctors today are explicitly thinking about the Garden of Eden when diagnosing patients, but the cultural memory remains, if greatly diluted and distorted.
I’m so sorry. I hope that the two of you are doing well.
It’s an actual tragedy how women’s health is dealt with. They get brushed off because “women have been giving birth for hundreds of thousands of years!”, ignoring that it’s the number one thing that kills women!! So our reproductive health and concerns are ignored while the ability to reproduce is put onto a pedestal.
I fucking hate it.
alot of doctors are jaded asf, even to the point of laughing you out of thier office. i think women are often ignored for symptoms of pain.
Poor you! It must have been terribly frustrating that the doctor wouldn’t take you seriously. Seems to be a frequent thing women go through in the medical world. Hope you’re okay now.
Thank you.
Birth control was my savior and actively allowed me enjoy life again. 💕
Amazing! I wish it worked for my GF but that gave her (we found out very late), terrible side effects.
The way I was raised.
It’s not normal for a boy to think “of course I would rather be a girl who wouldn’t want to be a girl?”
But it IS normal for a girl to think “of course I’d rather be a boy”, right?
Right??
I think that’s a normal thing to think if you are a guy that physics glitched on.
Who’s gonna tell him?
Well given how much harder it is to be a girl than a boy in our world,I bet it is more common.
There’s a difference between “I wish I had the privileges and expectations of being a boy” and “I wish I had a penis”
There is, the musing wasn’t that specific
I think it’s hard for both in different ways but let’s never discount which gender by a large margin leads the suicide count
Being a boy is lonely in ways girls will never know
Being a girl is stressful in ways boys will never know
Boys can handle the kinds of stresses that overwhelm girls, in a way that’s why we are here
On the other hand, I’ve almost never met a girl who when exposed to just how needy we are on the inside doesn’t respond with at least slight disgust. Only twice have I ever seen true compassion and even then the experience was harrowing for them.
I think it’s a normal thing to think if you are really a girl that physics glitched on.
I didn’t learn that adults don’t stand to wipe until I was like 17
I literally don’t understand how people sit and wipe (no bidet). Do you fucking lay on your side to make this happen? If you’re an adult, the toilet opening isn’t that huge to just shove your arm down there, and wipe and if you’re a man then scooting up to get back there makes your penis touch the nasty ass toilet.
So what’s the solution? A slight hover while bent over? Other than that there’s only standing. I don’t understand how people do this. 😂
Just scoot forwards a bit?
Ok obviously you know this happens and you know it’s stupid and impractical to lay on your side
All the bits that need cleaning are right their up front with just a flat hand extended to get the arch of the backdoor. If you can jerk your rod sitting down then it’s only 3 more inches till you’re wiping your shitter
So don’t pretend it’s some kind of acrobatic feat
But my question is, mr. standing wiper, how the fuck do you get to your taint, or do you have to do 2 trips?
You lean a little. I don’t know how to word with without being crass, but I feel like if you’re standing the cheeks are together and you can’t get in there. 😅
Can’t believe I am writing this crap to strangers online. Ha!
Well, if you’re standing you use a hand to spread a cheek and you wipe with the other. There’s no need to grab the cheek so deep you’re touching anything that would be there, just enough to separate. You can get in there no problem.
You still can if you want, but maybe don’t stand to use a bidet.
Depends on your water pressure
And on the splash zone
Lol learning a friend of mine still did that when he was like 22 was wild. He got so belligerent and tough and chest poundy when everybody was surprised. It’s not weird, really, but I still like to tease him for whatever I can since he’s such a cunt most of the time, being 6’5 and jacked and rich and smart and just an asshole in general… And I’m a masochist and he was really hot and towered over me and constantly bullied me 🥵
I remember one day realizing it was odd that my dad would hug my mom but my mom would never hug him back. She would just stand there and let him hug her. Yeah he was an abusive husband and I was very happy for her when she finally left him after over a decade!
Apparently, it isn’t normal to just space out during a test. Yeah, I went through K-12, undergrad, and grad school with an undiagnosed learning disability. This was only one of the symptoms…
wait, it isn’t normal?
I’ve never been diagnosed with a learning disability and I would often space out sometimes during a test. The brain gets tired and needs a break/reset before going back to the task. Now, if it was constant or for long periods of time, maybe that’s different? I’m not a doctor and this person didn’t specify.
Not everyone has tics they must surpress while in public.
It hurt to learn this
Why is there no helpful suggestion under this comment? I have multiple tics too and I want someone to tell me “just sprinkle some cinnamon on your ass and they will go away!”
Have you tried sprinkling cinnamon on your ass?
That not everyone secretly wanted to be a woman.
I’m still not entirely convinced tbh. I mean women are cute and just great and men are…
Men can be great too, and being a man has lots of perks (beyond even those imposed by patriarchy). Look for allies and you will find them in all gender flavours.
oh for sure. Wasn’t being serious, dysphoria is there and makes me basically think of existing as a man as hell and finding out that’s not everyone was interesting to say the least.
Oof yup that was a doozy
Well, not the women, obviously, because they’re already women.
Lucky bastards.
Social democracy
In general the political system you grow up in seems to becomes a normalcy in your mind when in reality there’s so many different ways of governing
Most fish probably never even realize that water exists till they are yanked out of it by the fisher’s net
Good analogy haha
Rinsing off with the shower head after a bath. You don’t take your clothes out of the washer—nor your dishes out of the dishwasher—without doing a rinse cycle first, so why should it be any different for your body?
Dabbing in-and-out instead of wiping front-to-back/back-to-front. You’re literally spreading shit all over your crack if you wipe instead of dab. All you gotta do is spread your cheeks before you sit down, and cleanup will be minimal cause everything will stay near your asshole instead of smearing all over your cheeks.
Wait hold up on the first one. Doesn’t everyone do a quick rinse with the shower after a bath? You’ve been sitting in soapy skin soup!
I wash myself prior to the bath not during it
This might be big brained
I usually don’t. I don’t take a bath if I’m completely covered in dirt. The actual concentration of dirt or skin in the bathwater has to be incredibly low. I take a bath to relax, not to get clean.
People don’t do this? Sitting in dirty water for a period of time doesn’t make me feel any cleaner.
I don’t take a bath to get clean, I take a bath to relax. Showering at the end would undo the relaxed state
That democracy would result in truth and national interest instead of Israel/US empire maximal warmongering lies.
We haven’t had democracy since the Dimpled Chad incident
What the fuck is “Israel/US empire” supposed to be?
Israel has significant influence over US empire. Neocon movement is fully overlapped by zionist supremacism and their middle east war plans/actions. US empire does have some independence from Israel over warmongering lies meant to target Russia and China.
But democracy under US empire serves only US empire, which was the big surprise factor.
That people poo every day or every other day, not once a week.
👀
Looks like we have representation from both ends of the spectrum here 😅
Poopin every morning with your morning coffee (as seen on tv) is a weakness. Be proud!
3/week to 3/day is considered normal in many docs I read. As my body started to hate gluten, I was up to like 6/day. Now back down to 2-3 (but sorely missing bread, pizza, etc.)
Lactose for me. No more cheese or ice cream or it’s also back to 6/day. Luckily there is medicine for the occasional treat.
Vegan cheese and non dairy ice cream are pretty good these days! Ben and Jerry’s has a pretty big line of them, and miyokos makes amazing cheese!
Vegan cheese isn’t really a thing here in Japan (hell, “real” cheese in general isn’t), but I can say Japan also has some pretty decent soy-based icecreams.
Try well aged hard cheese, most of the lactose is processed by the microbes. Naturally fermented yogurt is also low in lactose, but it needs to be thick and only 2 ingredients (milk and culture), if it is runny or has thickeners, avoid.
Good quality butter also has minimal lactose. It should basically be 100% fat.
Be careful though, it may be a dairy protein intolerance rather than lactose, usually this is more severe.
I was taught the 3/3 rule in pathology class fwiw.
did you ever get tested for celiacs, and or insensitivity? thats usualy the most common thing.
At Easter, my family had a tradition where Easter Bunny left notes telling us where the next set of eggs were and we’d follow a trail of clues around the house. I thought everyone did it that way
I grew up thinking it was normal for grown men to be attracted to little girls. My mother had a habit of pointing out random men who just happened to be around and telling me they were staring at me/thinking about how beautiful I was/in love with my/trying to look up my skirt. The way she talked about it made it seem like it was a common, acceptable thing.
As a man, I was worried about that growing up, but the women I’m attracted to has aged with me. I’m friends with some women under 30 from the dog park, and I can appreciate they’re pretty but they also look like kids. I hope they meet nice guys around their age.
What, and I cannot emphasize this enough, the fuck
I think she had undiagnosed mental issues, tbh.
What in the fuck 🤮
My mother
…WAT…
holy crap I hope you got out of that situation quick, this should NOT be normalized
My heart breaks for you in this
I distanced myself from her after college. Her behavior was unacceptable in a lot of ways, and she wasn’t willing to change. Thanks for the kind words.
It was not your fault. <3
I hope things are better for you now x
Yeah, I realized as an adult that most grown men actually aren’t interested in kids.
So it wasn’t just my mom.
I really wonder where they got this from! Strangely enough, when I was a teen and actually starting to get inappropriate attention from men, she would never believe that it happened.
