I hate how people just say shit now, and everyone takes it as a fact. Its kinda like guys saying that they cant cum because the girl isnt tight enough. No, mate. Your fucking death grip is just never gonna be bested by a vagina or an arsehole. In that same vein, if you need a vibrator to cum, youre clearly hitting that shit too much. If youre adding the vibrator in sometimes cos its fun, thats a different story.
I would have no issue with vibrator usage, since that’s a tool, not a person. But I don’t think I want anyone else dunking on my gf while I make the alley-oop.
From the emasculated male perspective, LeBron is the competitor, not your teammate.
Even if the guy just plays basketball as a hobby, I’m walking.
While I comple agree with her, you’re right that metaphor is kind of … meh. Like I get what she’s trying to say it’s just that you can twist that metaphor in some uncomfortable ways.
Btw the magic wand is the answer if you don’t like the vibrator idea
Btw the magic wand is the answer if you don’t like the vibrator idea
The magic wand…vibrator?
Well one is internal use, and the other is external……usually
which one? the vibrator or the vibrator?
What? There are many different types of vibrators. Some are internal, some external, some are both!
I was specifically referring to the magic wand. Which was intended to be external but the internet has proven that people get creative in their quests to void warranties
I’ve dated a couple of girls who can’t get off without a vibrator.
It’s hard to get mad at that. They’ve got their thing and it works. If your dick or tongue can’t shake at 30 wiggles a second, why complain? So long as we both get off by the end of it, everyone has a good time.
What’s the problem?
If your dick doesn’t shake at 30hz it is a skill issue on your part ;/
Equally, I’ve hooked up with some guys who struggle to get off during sex itself (which may be because the grip one uses while masturbating may be firmer than what one experiences during sex).
Having slept with both women and men, I feel like the pressure to reach orgasm seems like it’s bad for everyone. One dude I knew felt super insecure about not getting off, which stemmed from a previous partner taking it personally. It’s certainly the case that for some men, it can feel uncomfortable to have sex and not reach orgasm. However, I think that everyone would have a better time if people decoupled satisfaction from orgasm.
If I wanted to be certain that I’d get off, then the use of a vibrator helps a lot. That’s not necessarily my goal though; some of the best sex I’ve ever had didn’t result in me reaching orgasm, and I find it frustrating when people don’t understand that this is possible (I find this problem more common with men). Of course, that’s just personal to me — some people may consider reaching orgasm to be an essential part of “good sex”, but that’s why good communication is the best skill one can develop for better sex.
The stories you’ve lived are the ones that seem more meaningful. For a guy, climax is a given, and sometimes the whole point just for maintenance purposes. The wholesome joy of a thing is made impure by ulterior motives. It took me a while to see it from the other side.
I’m one of those guys that struggles to orgasm. Even masturbating I will sometimes last a really long time. It’s more a mood thing than a sensation thing for me. I have to have my mind in the right state to orgasm. The good thing about it is I can have sex for as long as my partner wants often.
It’s odd, because usually men are the ones who leave their partners wanting. For me my partners pretty much always get more than they bargained for, but I’m frequently left without orgasming. It’s fine though. It’s still plenty enjoyable without it.
Wouldn’t hurt to get your progesterone levels checked. If you can get hard but are unable to cum it could be too high
If your dick or tongue can’t shake at 30 wiggles a second, why complain?
I would imagine for the same reason that women complain about men who cant cum without their pornhub deathgrip…
Agree. People dont like being replaced with meaningless objects. People can also rationalize and become used to nearly anything.
Vibrators are fine but when I whip out the premium™️ silicone vagina / asshole combo with a high speed self lubricating vortex cervix and the 36GG BIG TIDDY™️ attachment with Alexa integration I’m ruining he mood 🙄
It’s because you aren’t using the cum collection tray attachment, it’s a game changer trust me
This thread is insane 😂
It has Alexa integration?
“Alexa, I’m close!”
with Alexa integration
“I’m about to cum… Alexa play Despacito”
You misspelled El Sonidito.
And they kick you out of the Walmart!
vortex cervix
🤌🤌🤌
I was hoping for a car analogy. I don’t understand baseball analogies
If you have a supercharger in your engine, are you mad that it produces more horsepower than you do, or are you just happy to go fast?
Sex is not a team sport for most people. Just sayin’.
So your partner is the opposition in a 1 on 1 scenario?
It’s only ranked competitive sex for me. You casuals wouldn’t understand.
Fuck yeah and I break their ankles and dunk on them every time
It certainly should be. Anyone who thinks of sex as not a team sport is just setting themselves up for mediocre experiences
No way I love being hypercompetitive. It’s the one time I do better than my wife. I’m like oh you gave me one orgasm? That’s cute enjoy your five
Most of the women I’ve met treat sex like golf, where a man is the golfer and a woman is the course. Her job is to hold perfectly still while he does all the trying.
See, this is so true!
Now someone tell my wife that using a fuck machine in my my ass and nipple clips is super reasonable!
Please and thank you.
As long as my woman has an earth-shattering orgasm, I don’t care how she gets there.
Do you care of you’re not a meaningfull part of it?
I think being there while she does it is a turn on.
Is never being why she orgasms a turn on?
Watching her orgasm is. Plus cunnilingus usually works.
Then she doesn’t need the vibrator…
Do you think a vibrator being involved and being a meaningful part of an orgasm are mutually exclusive? Hint: They’re absolutely not.
What part are you playing, that is as equally meaningful as being the direct stimulus that is necessary for orgasm, that isn’t also present when one is the direct stimulus? Being what brings a woman to orgasm is about as meaningful as it gets when it to comes to sex, next to the intimacy.
If you believe the only reason to have sex is to reach an orgasm and that the only valuable contribution to it is being the one that does it, then sure, but there’s so much more to it than that.
Now, I wanna be clear. I’m not telling you how to have sex. I’m not saying the way you want to have it is wrong. If you want to be the one doing it and no vibrators involved, there’s nothing wrong with that. But acting like that’s the only way to have sex? No, there are so many more.
Yet you can’t specify any that aren’t covered by orgasm or intimacy?
Do you want me to talk about my sexual preferences?
It’s not about me.
So…no…or?
If she get multiple earth shattering orgasms, it’s even better.
Fun fact, the G in Kenny G is for Gorelick. Though they don’t seem to be related.
Interesting that her partner isn’t Lebron James in the analogy. He also needs a team to win so she could have said, even Lebon James needs team mates to win the game. But she didn’t, she relegated her partner to the less valuable role, wonder what that choice indicates…
A joke, it indicates a joke made by a stand up. You know, comedy. It’s not a confession of deeply held beliefs, jfc.
Then why is it funny?
It’s funny because some guys get mad about a woman using a vibrator, but would be thrilled to give LeBron an assist.
They have no problem being cooperative in some settings, but in the bedroom feel like it’s a solo performance.
It’s especially funny because sex, of all things, is basically defined by the cooperative nature; you aren’t there to win points, you’re just trying to have a good time.
So in summary, it’s funny because it reverses expectations; the imaginary partner like cooperating in a competitive scenario, but gets competitive in a cooperative one.
People have different preferences in different situations, is that a bad thing somehow?
No, but it is kinda funny. Maybe it’s not to your taste, humor is pretty subjective.
Would it be funny if you didn’t agree with part of it?
It’s funny because it will trigger guys who feel emasculated by vibrators
It’s ok to hurt these people?
Don’t get too inceled by her joke.
Can I get disappointed at the underlying cruelty of making jokes about people’s insecurities?
If you are made to feel insecure about this woman’s joke then you are the problem she is joking about.
How is a vibrator making you insecure?
Please tell me, I’ll wait…
Too many guys take it as a swipe at their ability to please their partner when a woman needing a vibrator typically has zero to do with his ability to get her off and everything to do with her ability to get off.
I look at it like I have less work to do and she enjoys it more.
I don’t even understand why this is an issue. If I get her off using a vibrator, I’m taking the W. Getting intimidated by a hunk of plastic is weird.
Some dudes are REAL insecure
The “win” is figuring out what works for the lady, and there’s not a specific manual for each woman.
Guys, in my experience, 60-70% of women need clitoral stimulation to make “it” happen. However, it’s not the same playbook for every lady, and each lady generally has a set of reliable “plays” that work.
If you haven’t already tried, introduce toys into the process - I have never had a partner regret it.
Isn’t it all about having pleasant fun together?
Yes, and for me the indirect feeling of the vibrator as part of sex is massive turn on. Also directly in certain positions. Or knowing she use it to get off by herself because being jealous of that would be like her being jealous of my hand.
It is an addition to the fun, like lingerie or lube or anything else.
We god fearing Christian folk don’t use any kind of lewd objects when engaging in activities designed to expand the kingdom. They will turn you from an upstanding citizen in to a degenerate back-alley harlot faster than you can say “forgive me father for I have sinned”. We get two minutes of dry missionary sex once a month with blindfolds on and only the smallest amount of movement possible to procreate. Anything more is shameful and should be outlawed post haste.
A faithful’s image of “expand the kingdom”…
Muscular Christianity (its real, look it up) is the basis of all modern toxic masculinity.
She’s beautiful
I’m not emasculated by it, and very much enjoy it. Hitachi magic wands are so much fun. Thrusting rabbits are a delight.
But….
The ones that are realistic penis replicas….
I get a bit turned off looking down and seeing a life-like veiny flesh-colored penis in my hand. Just kinda takes me out of the moment. If I were bi, I’m sure it’d be lovely. But it’s just not for me.
There’s always something for everyone and not everyone is into everything. As long as there’s consent, respect for needs and boundaries, and communication, no one ever needs to feel innadequate in the bedroom.
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