For LGBTQ+ folks who want to blend in, what tips or advice can you give?
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What tv shows/movies with gay and straight people. Don’t do what you see the gay people do. For a lot of people, especially the gay haters, their only experience of gay people is from tv and movies.
Of course anything too gay friendly they won’t have watched. So skip will and grace. Go for things where the gay person is minor comic relief. That is the kind of stuff the haters would have put up with. And I assume there must be some shows or movies that demonize gay people. Those would be research material. I just don’t know of any. Maybe listen to that black comedian who was anti LGBTQ+. I am sure he was spouting all the sterotypes that haters would recognize.As a cus straight guy myself I’m not sure fully understand the question but here goes my best interpretation,
I do not recommend this but the only thing I could think of is not displaying any affection to your parter, but if someone said I couldn’t hold my girlfriend’s Hand in public id be pretty pissed. So just be yourself OP
In my experience I’ve never noticed and even if i did I don’t care, they’re just doing their thing. The only time I’ve noticed some ‘act gay’ is that Hollywood over the top stereotype flamboyant kind, and whenever I see those people I wish I had that energy, just living you absolute best life
Kinda got a little off track there but my point is unless your in physical danger (I hope your not) just be yourself and what you think is right
Less is more.
I knew a guy who was gay, but closeted at work, or at least, he thought he was closeted at work.
He came out to a friend of mine at work, and she took me into confidence, nervous about revealing his secret. I had to tell her everybody knew. I suggested that she let him know that he could be out to the rest of us and it wouldn’t make a difference (partly because no one cared and partly because everyone knew).
When one of the guys was getting married, the gay guy was the one that insisted we had to have a bachelor’s party at a strip club for him. We all went to a strip club because we weren’t supposed to know he was gay and we couldn’t just say, “Dude, you’re gay. Straight, adult guys don’t really do this. Can we just go to a restaurant and get dinner or something?”
Straight =/= misogynistic. In fact, I would argue misogynistic would usually mean some kind of confusion or anxiety about sexual identity anyway.
Straight people aren’t all the same any more than LGBTQ+ people are the same. I’m a straight, CIS male. I don’t like sports at all. I don’t drink beer. I like deep, emotional movies. I like show tunes and musicals. I sew. I also like trucks. I like the outdoors, but I would never want to go hunting because I don’t want to kill anything.
There’s a guy from my high school who everyone thought was gay. He’s not gay, but there’s have probably always been people who thought he is. He has a kind of flamboyant persona. He’s married to my wife’s best friend from high school and they have two grown kids.
My advice, just be who you are. If you can’t be out, don’t be out, but you don’t have to put on an act. The closer you stay to the truth the easier it is.
Being gay is weird for a lot of reasons I can’t understand. I have a friend who is “almost closeted” but too old to hide it fully. We respect his decision not to talk about it, but we always laugh when he makes jokes about blowjobs or crude stuff that only gay bros can do. He’s a great friend and doesn’t look repressed or depressed, but I always hope that he’s not unhappy inside.
Edit: shit, I made 2 answers on the same comment, well, fuck it.
To give another example from a not-gay guy: I drink beer, I enjoy stupid movies like Gladiator where almost naked guys bash each other’s heads (but not because they are naked, because the movie is funny), I don’t like musicals, I sew too, but I don’t care about trucks.
Why all this? Don’t know, don’t care, being myself is hard enough, I don’t have time to think about it or give excuses.
How would anyone know your sexual orientation if you dont specifically do things to show it?
Like, dont grab another mans/womans ass in public, dont talk about nice dicks/boobs you saw in a magazine. Dont act like what people generally associate with the other sex (this one might be difficult if your interests lie in those fields). I think homosexuals that stand out a lot are usually aware of it and like to act it out.
I think homosexuals that stand out a lot are usually aware of it and like to act it out.
What a pedestrian view of your own culture. Sad.
Not sure what you mean. There are definitely homosexuals that show it openly and get into a kind of ‘role’, actively acting out the cliches, no need to deny that. I know many gay men and for most you wouldnt notice if you didnt know them, but some are very extravagant and thats their thing.
Don’t act straight, don’t try to blend it unless you live in Alabama with your parents. Be yourself.
There are no traits that are universally “straight traits”, “gay traits”, “trans traits” or even “ace traits”. So any behavior you can have is technically “acting straight”.
^^^^^^ Having this attitude is a great way to portray yourself as straight. It’s the idea that “straight culture” == “default.” Straight culture is a thing, just like gay culture is.
Yes, you can cling to pointless technicalities. There is no one behavior that 0 gay people ever engage in, or any behavior that 0 straight people ever engage in. But this is ridiculously reductive and ignore that despite outliers, clear cultural grouping of traits exists.
So loving people the same gender as you in a romantic sense is straight behavior?
Is that your personality or just a fact about you?
You’re being obtuse. It concerns behavior towards people you’re not romantically involved with.
Unless you’re a walking flaming stereotype, nothing? Just don’t mention your boy/girlfriend
what do you mean, walking flaming stereotype?
Look no further: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-f3sNylbUI
I get it, its just so fucked up that this even has to be a thing!
I sorta feel like men and women act more diffently from each other than gay and straight people.
Not from the requested community, but a general tip to seem like you belong everywhere is act like you are disinterested in everything around you.
Just pretend to be bored.
This works for men at least.
Do this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGmr2W-ADSU&pp=ygUTY2FwdGFpbiBob2x0IGhldGVybw%3D%3D
Talk about heavy breasts
I don’t even have to click the link to know that’s Captain Holt of Brooklyn 99 undercover as a heterosexual man, because that was my first thought on reading the post.
I’m straight and I’ve been accused of being gay before for being an intellectual and compassionate and not demonstrating an affinity for sports and similar competing with other men. I’ve also been accused of being trans before because of an affinity for playing female characters in tabletop (I like diverse groups so I often play female or black characters because many other folks won’t) and computer RPGs (I prefer to stare at a woman’s ass all day over a man’s and I tend to enjoy the voice acting better).
So I guess don’t do anything I do.
I cross my legs at the thighs when I sit, and I’ve been told all my life that it’s a feminine trait. It’s just comfy, IDGAF.
Don’t smile at people. Do more of a grin with a nod.
Don’t wave at people by shaking/waving your hand back and forth. Just do more of a grin and nod. At most a wave should just be exposing the palm of your hand to the other person for a second with fingers not touching.
When people say hello or whatever, just do more of a grin with a nod.
You get the idea.
For men, look straight ahead while walking and don’t get out of anyone’s way, act at all times like you expect them to get out of yours.
