Personally I haven’t. While Linux is imperfect, choosing the right distro makes the rest of the experience straightforward. And with it’s whole complexity, I find Linux more user friendly than Windows. Even driver issues, broken shadow file ownership and KDE specifics only made me more confident about my choice to use Linux after I solved everything.
You don’t have to use patterns on Tumbleweed (and maybe Slowroll also?), if you don’t like them. It’s just a handy shortcut to get most, but not all, relevant packages.
It’s annoying (compared to anything similar on Arch) and will reinstall things you’ve removed. There is conflicting information on the best way to deal with this, either way more complicated than ‘off’. It’s a problem that shouldn’t be a problem, and it seems to be a common issue people have.