• Ex Nummis@lemmy.world
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    2 years ago

    Damn I remember this post from when I was on 4chan still. OP did provide links and his story was 100% true. The girl wasn’t ugly, just kinda plain but almost every pic of her somehow exuded despair, and that was honestly offputting (except for the kind of creeps who get off on that I reckon).

    • Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
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      2 years ago

      Genuine question, are there people out there who would do this for fun? Because it sounds like a lot of work to me.

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        I’d say it was more common in the past, and then a lot of them realised they can do it for money. Same with youtube.

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        2 years ago

        You’re saying that the only girls who have onlyfans are those who don’t truly have the stomach for it? In reality, there’s a lot of overlap between fetish communities and OF

    • rumba@lemmy.zip
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      2 years ago

      And it wasn’t the grinches heart that grew three sizes that day…

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      2 years ago

      Right, but aren’t those girls in it for the attention? The thrill? Sounds like she’s not getting any attention, either.

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        2 years ago

        There’s a difference between none and some.

        She gets some attention, not much, but some.

        We call it nothing at all, even if it’s not nothing. It’s obvious why we do it, it’s the absence of respect. But we are technically wrong.

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          People’s views are so skewed by social media numbers. If 10 people came up to you in one day and complemented you, it would probably be the best day of your life…

          It’s like people complaining that Lemmy groups only have, using this group as an example, 3.1k users/day and are therefore not worth participating in (these are Reddit arguments, but still).

          Somehow people have developed this intuition that unless you have literally millions of interactions then you’re practically invisible. If you were hanging out at a park with 3,100 people you wouldn’t say that it was a small group, but on the Internet this is seen as a tiny number of people, hardly worth mentioning.

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            While we agree, I want to clarify this:

            Lemmy groups only have, using this group as an example, 3.1k users/day

            That still means this platform is clearly not anywhere near challenging the big ones, and therefore not really having a big impact on improving the internet the way I want it to. I am especially annoyed by the idiots who want to keep Lemmy small.

            On a personal level, 10 is a small crowd and three thousand is a lot of people. But when talking about platforms and impact, it’s not much at all.

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      Not without a sob-story from the girl. Doubt she did it for the money. Someone with the time and commitment to doing this(if not energy or enthusiam) she demonstrated would make better money doing just about anything else.

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        Or she was doing drugs, therefore the enthusiasm. Energy fades. Now she is homeless. Or dead.

  • GaMEChld@lemmy.world
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    2 years ago

    Know your worth and know where you are valued.

    This can sound really deep, but it works for shallow too. I’m sorry girl, but the whore market is saturated and very competitive.

  • TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world
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    It is a rule of thumb in businesses that 80% fail within 5 years. It is the same with anything who are looking for fame and success; only 20% succeed. And even within those 20%, only like 10% are considered in the A-list.

    Anyhow, I am curious why this girl felt the need to expose herself. Is it for money? Does she feel insecure and needs validation? Or both?

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    2 years ago

    The funny thing is that if this greentext linked this girl OnlyFans, she would gain tons of views just out of pity.

    Some of these would even stick around afterwards.

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    This happened to a girl I knew that tried to make some money on onlyfans during Covid lockdown. Only lasted 4 months, even though she was pretty attractive. I think guys just assume that as a girl, you can simply post nudes online and make money, while it actually does require consistent effort, marketing skills, and a bit of luck.

    • Lemmynated@lemmy.zipBanned
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      I imagine it’s as easy to make money off of as YouTube or Twtich, almost impossible.

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      There’s a bit on the Netflix Pornhub documentary from a camgirl. She notes that she does her own marketing, lighting, camera work, etc., and every once in a while, she masturbates on camera. It’s a real job with real effort.

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        Yeah, you can see this for yourself if you have a VR headset and a couple of sites have VR cams set up.

        Mostly they forget they exist (although I’m grateful for the ones that don’t), so you get a kind of behind the scenes look at it all.

        The one thing that strikes me is their demeanour the instant they’re off the main cam. These girls are so fucking done with everything and everyone, and it’s not surprising most of them quit after a month or two. Most of them are probably getting a fraction of the money tipped, with a good chunk going to the handlers (a lot of pretend typing going on, and they get directed by the person at the keyboard) and room rent (much of it seems to be in the same handful of buildings somewhere in St Petersburg). Many of them are on multiple sites at once, with phone apps on the go as well.

        It’s a real business.

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        2 years ago

        My cousin dropped out of university after a few months, and wanted to be a pro gaming streamer instead.

        Oddly enough he never did achieve that, and now mostly sits around his parent’s house doing quite a lot of being depressed.

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        Managed my friends only fans for a bit, we got her account to top 4.5%. She brought in ~$1.5K on a good month. One time we got up to $2K. This is with her having done porn with a few big studios and having a decent amount of followers on Twitter. There is no Discovery feature or feed on OF, you have to direct them there through a direct link. Had to keep a consistent production schedule, deal with inquires from patrons. Successfully running and only fans is like running a business, people don’t simply give you money.

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            Yeah, people think it’s easy to defraud Social Security. It’s hard pretending that I was born over 150 years ago.

            Shit, all the work I had to maintain that fraud. Fuck me, it was tough.

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    I see this quite often on the other side of reddit. It’s quite sad. On that side of reddit, where no one shows their face, except occasionals who either leave generic “sexy 😍” comments or entitled requests, no one acknowledges you for trying.

    Every time I see some woman praising sex work and/or calling it feminist, I am reminded of the 10 other girls who who_red away their dignity for absolutely nothing

    • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
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      That’s what you get when you post on Reddit. Lemmy users appreciate everyone (becaude the communities are almost dead).

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      Sex work isn’t often feminist, but sex workers still deserve respect. They deserve to be included in the feminist movement.

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        And we can start by no longer implying that the work is somehow undignified. This applies to OP as well as GP.

        Sex workers shouldn’t have to wait for the revolution to find respect. Maybe there wouldn’t be sex workers after the revolution, but I certainly hope it results in a society where people are freer to express their sexuality in safe and consensual ways.

    • Takios@discuss.tchncs.de
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      it’s a common criticism on reddit that the nsfw subs are just becomijg advertsfor OF so I’m not surprised they dont get much interaction

  • Hiyo@sh.itjust.works
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    Ah, another classic case of the wild goonette lost in cyberspace which has yet to be found. In due time.

    • Heyting@lemmy.ml
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      Yeah I’m not surprised but I am disgusted by the misogyny of this post and the comments.

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    I know it’s probably fake, but I low key think this is the experience of most women, online or not. Men like to think women can just ring a bell and get dick and companionship, judging off of, like, the cream of the crop of women and their (apparent) track record. It’s not always that easy, especially if you aren’t attractive. A lot of men don’t fuck for personality.

    ~~Obligatory not all men, yes there are shallow women, and yes it is also hard for men to find partners, and yes they have their own struggles and pressures that make their struggle unique to them. ~~

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      I mean, they probably could, but what’s available to them isn’t exactly the cream of the crop either.

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        I imagine it’s similar to the gay male experience - I could get a hookup any time of day easily, but the guys aren’t relationship material.

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    Imagine equating selling of ones dignity to selling ones pics.

    Top Victorian mind, after the morpheme clears.

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      Someone linked what they think was the person in a comment, at best they went to a lot of effort for very little in return.