If something happens to a man of course it’s a big deal…“systematic” is about a broader social pattern, not about how big of a deal one particular occurrence is…my rape was as big of a deal as a woman being raped. That doesn’t make it systematic or not systematic.

You’ve got a lot of anger or something clouding how you’re reading my words. I corrected something you accused me of in my first comment and answered your questions about being raped or threatened.

I won’t comment more on this thread but I do genuinely hope you find some peace, man.

Hi. I have been raped, yes. By a woman. I’m not sure how that’s relevant here. I have never had the threat of a false accusation used to coerce me into sex. Nor have I ever heard of it happening in the real world. If that happened to you, I am very sorry. But the fact is, my individual experience of being raped by a woman (and your - possibly hypothetical? experience of being threatened into sex), while awful and traumatizing and worthy of support and care, are not the systematic and institutionalized problem that the rape of women and femme-presenting people is. Nor does it really speak to the issue raised in the article or the issue I raised above.

I don’t know where you got the impression that I think men are inherently evil - in fact, that’s one of the things that I had to struggle against when I was an angry young man - the belief - that the manosphere and these types of folks implicitly endorse - that men cannot help themselves without sex, that we are wild animals and that women use this to exploit us with their harlot ways or whatever.

If you are a man - I promise you are not inherently evil. People are not inherently evil, and if anyone, feminist or not, made you feel that way, that was wrong. But your anger is misdirected. I promise.

I’m older than the men in this study, but I want to share my anecdotal experience as a contrast to the attitude of many in the comments, which I think are a superficial analysis of the situation. (This is assuming that the results are valid despite the small sample size. I don’t really know how to assess that.)

I can really relate to these feelings when I was a younger man. I think the article nearly separates fear of being accused (self-preservation) with fear of moral harm (care for one’s sexual partner). Because we live in a patriarchal society, men get the messages that women are false accusers or, equally harmful, that bad sex counts as rape according to “modern culture” or something.

Because I had people in my life willing to tolerate my younger self and teach me feminism, I know that false reports are virtually non-existent, that I shouldn’t be so fucking neurotic about sex because I always care about my partner and consent in or out of a sexual context, that small mistakes don’t make me a deviant monster, etc. But when I was 20? I heard the manosphere incel bullshit voices and the feminist voices, and I didn’t know what to believe - I was young and naive and sexually frustrated. Thank God I made it through that without falling to red or black pill culture.

But we as feminists need better PR that educates just as much as it (justifiably) shames.

As leftists we generally think that society-wide problems have society-wide causes and solutions. We need to reach young men instead of just rolling our eyes or calling them people who just hate their sexual partners.

Coming dangerously close to the right wing “actually Zionism is good because it means we can finally get rid of all of the Jews from the United States” bullshit

It’s for extradition to the UK, I think this is outside of his purview.

“While the arena acknowledged keeping information on celebrities’ sexual orientations…” James Dolan, you do realize that this is still quite bad, right ?

Agreed 100%!!!

I’m convinced that Chiles and Tim Dowling have some kind of blackmail on the owners of The Guardian. It just makes no sense otherwise.

Oof. Missed this. Thanks, good to know!

If you’re talking about easily available running shoes, there are still select New Balances that are union made in the US (as of a couple of years ago).

If you’re looking for just sneakers, there are a ton made in Europe you can get shipped to north america! I have Vegas at the moment

They have six months to refile, though it isn’t clear it would hold up: https://www.nytimes.com/live/2025/11/24/us/trump-news/10b95929-ec4d-551a-ba4c-0de3f63c485d

I did mean itch.io, but that’s alright - the ambiguity was my fault and I’m not completely set on itch.io.

Mobile not necessary. Thanks so much!

Hey! I’m in this picture!

@Linktank@lemmy.today I assume you are right, I think the photos are from an experiment from the 50s or 60s.

Ok, unlike the other commenter, you are engaging and this is a fair point. I don’t know enough about the Nepal and South Korea case to assess how fast it took: Yes, it looked like a week to international observers who aren’t reading the Nepal Daily or whatever, but I’d want to here from people on the ground about how much or how little lead up and organization there was leading up to the tipping points.

But that’s not disagreeing with you - just saying I genuinely don’t know if you’re right or not, but I do appreciate the comparisons.

100% agree with the above!

I’m a bit confused on how quickly you expect political change to happen…do you think the effectiveness (or lack thereof) of No Kings can be assessed a week on? Imagine you were in Birmingham during the bus boycott - after a week you’d be out there saying “look! We did this and nothing happened!”

I don’t love everything about no kings, the tactics, and the messaging. But give it a second, dude!

I don’t think so. Its just not necessary. Especially in a city like New York, there will just be a Capital Strike to make sure Mamdani fails at everything he tries. Then they’ll blame socialism.

Thirding this, in the same boat!