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Ah, I see. My condolences, friend. Mental health struggles are real, but you’ll bounce back and grow from the experience. I know that seems trite, but I’m confident you’ll look back on the experience as something you learned from in the end.

Other comments have touched on the more personally important aspects, but I’d like to highlight:

No final paychecks or anything.

as some fuckin’ bullshit, yo. Are you quite sure that’s kosher? If you worked and aren’t paid for the time, your employer still owes you wages for that time worked regardless of if they’re satisfied with your performance or not.

Author rests the entire argument on ignoring the cumulative effects of individual use on a large scale. Whole lotta writing for such a small idea.

By the same logic, it follows:

IC engines are not bad for the environment.

Consuming meat is not bad for the environment.

A single vote has no effect on the outcome of an election.

One official taking a bribe isn’t a big deal.

pitiful, abject nonsense

It’s a bottleneck. If you are calculating faster than you can record the results, you have to wait for the write operation to complete before you can do the next calculation.

There’s no magic moment when you Become You. It’s gradual and takes years and most of the time it’s effective it’s also apparently unrewarding, and there’s no way to tell the difference between “this is useless and i should move on” and “this isn’t immediately rewarding and i should be patient” except to experience the results. With experience it does get easier to tell the difference. At this point, I know within 3-4 sessions with a new shrink whether it’s a good fit or not, but I’ve been at this for decades by now.

I can say that the session ending 35 minutes early for any reason other than one you agreed upon ahead of time is extraordinary and almost certainly unprofessional.

It’s okay to say “You’re not helping me, I need X, Y, and Z from now on” and if they can’t provide that then just move on, or if you’re sure just say “You’re not giving me what I need, I’m moving on.”

I also dunno about all this workbook shit. At that point you might as well join a support group or get on an app or shudder talk to AI for a helluva lot cheaper. In fact, I’ve had several support groups that were leaps and bounds more helpful than the shrink I was seeing; more honest, more direct, more empathetic and experienced. If someone handed me a workbook and told me to do “therapy” out of it I’d drop it on the floor, never return, and refuse to pay for that session. Therapy is done with a therapist. They’re welcome to recommend reading or whatever, but therapy isn’t a fucking worksheet, it doesn’t follow a formula or a flowchart. I’m willing to bet $20 most of those zillion skills are just so many myriad reframings and permutations of the same two or three principles.

A good therapist doesn’t just ask you how you can deal with X (though that is in fact an important part of it), a good therapist works with you to help you figure out how you can deal with X, including making suggestions of their own. A good therapist doesn’t just watch you sputter and flounder on the high sea asking, “jeez looks like a tight spot you’re in there, how ya gonna get outta that?”, they throw the therapist’s metaphorical equivalent of a float and bring you aboard and place you (to the extent possible in the circumstances) in calmer, shallower water. Conversely, a good therapist also knows your strengths and will challenge you when they know you’re not living up to them, whether through laziness or mental block or you just hadn’t thought of it that way or whatever.

Fuck anyone who implies you’re not trying hard enough or that a mediocre therapist is good enough. You can tell good and well for your own damn self that it ain’t workin; TRUST YOURSELF. Yes, it’s important that you do most of the work and yes, some people or some issues can tolerate mediocrity, blah blah blah. Is that working for you? Seriously ask yourself. Keep trying 'til you find the right one. But don’t drop the one until you’ve picked up another, if possible. less-than-ideal therapy is usually better than no therapy at all.

Oh, and medicine. It’s very important that you get the right medicine. In my experience, I know within 2-3 weeks whether and how a medicine is working and when a psychiatrist tells me “lets check back in 2-3 months” It’s almost always more to do with their scheduling than anything of theraputic import.

Hey yo, can someone with image editing skills turn that thumbnail of sad miller into a sad clown please?

Shocked?

Of course you would, probably at least the first two or three times, that’s why they’re on this trend.

Slam not getting enough clicks anymore, people know “slam” means “gentle rebuke.” Now it’s flay, pillory. At this rate, some time in 2028 we can expect “mild procedural admonition” to be replaced with something like “set off nuclear munitions over home of,” eg. “Judge Obliterates Defendant’s Entire Hometown With a White Phosphor Bomb in Searing Ruling Over Unpaid Parking Fines.” gotta get them clicks

A law without a mechanism of enforcement is just a suggestion.

I believe he spelt his name without an apostrophe.

The point of US prisons is to just eliminate a person from public life in revenge.

And the legal slavery, dont forget about the legalized slavery. The north may have won our civil war, but the south won the peace.

Muppets Christmas Carol

GBAPBJ

Oh, I see now. I put it in the thumbnail url by accident, so I didn’t understand why it wasn’t coming up as a link.

wasnt it in the post title?

Wetness is an illusion. An artificial category imposed on what we call reality by our minds. Which are also illusory. Everything is an illusion. It’s all as meaningful and purposeful as the patterns dust makes in a whirlwind. That’s all we are- dust in the wind. Everything is dust in the wind.

Woe unto them. They sound like ChatGPT now.

Don’t tell me how to live my life.