This is the second time I’m hearing stark criticism of The Canary. Thanks for the info, I’ll try to be more critical with their stories.

This is conversion therapy, which is recognized by the United Nations as being tantamount to torture.

It’s to help visualize their true place in society.

Lmao, longer than my longest relationship ever.

I’ve felt more intense connection in more open relationships with massive breaks and stuff than “being together” ones.
I’ve made out with random people on the street, had short flings, one-sided relationships, etc. all these experiences helped in a crazy number of ways. I definitely have a very clear idea of what works for me and what doesn’t now, which I didn’t have back then.

It actually disgusts me to think of someone having a side-piece. I think it’s dehumanizing.

But I’m not here to tell you what to do :)

Saw a thread about putting together your favorite food and a diagnosis to make up a name. So I used that when asked for a username, but miss-typed ‘taco’. At the time I thought I was cis, so it’s kinda nice to have a more nb fitting username carry over.

“If you’re gonna smoke a cigarette, enjoy it.” - yoga instructor

My tantrums are like putting up a picture askew. People think it’s wrong, but they’re too busy ‘correcting’ the picture, that they don’t see my shit-eating grin.

Let people have fun!

It does suck though, when it’s serious, or they have trouble differentiating and pull the crying-wolf card. Also cruel.

In the name of the hiss, the scratch, and the holy meow, I hereby assign you a cat at birth, postnatally.

Ooooooooom

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It’s done. You’re ACAB now.

By noticing people complaining about it :) Also being aware of certain biases and such, and looking for the existence of posts that would be deleted if the bias was heavy, etc.

Sure, some stuff might fall under the radar or stay for a long time, definitely a thing.

I think many people feel this way, and I think in many cases another thing that plays into it is not realising the amount of good moderators, because good moderation usually doesn’t make as much noise as when it’s bad.

If I think of all the communities in lemmy/piefed I like, the perfect/near perfect moderation from my browsing heavily outweighs anything problematic.

Looks like we effectively agree.

I think if we to improve the state of NSFW content we also need to be very specific in our wording of the criticism because how criticism is worded can change the context and as we agree, context matters.

Agreed! I think Multiverse made quite the effort and did a decent job. Misunderstandings and mistakes still happen, which is why just talking like this to get to our goal can be useful :)

And I think you also blurred that line with the fiction story example.

Thanks for the feedback. Reading it again now, I wouldn’t know how to express it differently. But I can see how this might not be clear to people not living in my head. Useful to know.

aye. same.

Maybe. But for anyone reading who might be changing their minds. I’m not trying to step on anyone’s toes and guilt trip them or put them down.

Because right now, we can look forward to how good fedinsfw can actually be. It just seems like the fediverse has a beautiful opportunity to re-imagine internet pornography. And it’s realising this opportunity that I am arguing for.

If somebody posts a swastika, and uses it to critically talk about the nazi history, or the fertility symbol aspect of it, it’s not the same as if you’re posting it without comment in the context of a debate about racism, or in a PoC forum, etc.

Context matters and changes what it is we’re looking at.

Is it desirable to platform a community that basically says “jerking off to underage girls, but legal”? To put it another way…

I would like to imagine fedinsfw as something beyond the boundaries of ordinary porn sites. It can be so much better. And I say this regardless of this aspect we are talking about, though, just to keep in mind.

KMFDM - I get it now
FLØRE - super cringe and lacking depth, but I still love it 😊

Getting pissed at the noise kids make outside, playing.

Depends on the situation. But generally agree with the top comment.

Recently a cop help me with something not so super legal. Was kinda hilarious as neither of us knew about the other until we casually talked about work and he showed his badge. He was really sweet, and just hated his job. Lost soul. Hope he finds a better way. But he’s still a cop, so I ultimately wouldn’t trust him.

Also living in the ME, so I have some personal interest. After what I’ve heard and looked at, I personally put the risk of escalating regionally at extremely low right now.

I heard people I respect talk about it in ways I enjoyed :)

The public feed, rules, etc. also looked like a good match for me. And I’m absolutely grateful to be able to post from here!

Alright, I don’t care about the legal argument. That’s for other folx to deal with. I care about a nice more or less ethical porn site.

And btw. Multiverse also agreed with the law, and I can see why.

I get the point of slippery slope arguments. So here’s the potential harm I see, which I think you’d agree with is passing a point on the slope we don’t want to cross: normalizing indulging in the sexualisation of minors, or just straight up normalising the sexualisation of minors.

If the community calls itself fauxbait, the mental process is one of sexualisation of minors, even if it isn’t what’s depicted. Just like a written story is just ink on paper and no performer is hurt, it’s about the mental process.

They are not looking at these adults and thinking about fucking an adult. Just like the brain would do with a fictional story.

It’s not just about the age of the performers, though. I also think most people here care more about actual harm than legality.

To me it looks like it’s about platforming the indulgence of the sexualization of minors. In a fictional sense, but still. Should they allow written rape fantasies of minors?

I’m gonna lean towards that this is rather normalizing and harm producing than helping people. I would love to read science on this, but this is not my field, so hard to research myself.