foxglove (she/her)

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seeing that I should be “woman-aligned” to participate is saying to me “if you come here, you go in the women box, or at least next to it.” (YES, I know the rules do not say or intend this)

if the policy and rules don’t intend or say this, then where are you getting it from? The rules and phrasing directly does allow self-determination, what’s the issue?

We previously had a policy that had language like “women and non-binary” but it quickly became clear that the community is not intended to be “everyone except cis men”, but rather intended to be a women’s community (focused on the experiences of people who socially are treated like women, or who might have some connection to womanhood, etc.) but gender-diverse people self-determine whether they feel they fit in or belong. Sometimes non-women are viewed as women in society, or have some connection or tie to womanhood - this allows them to decide their level of participation and comfort in the women’s community without sacrificing the purpose of the group as being a women’s space.

the phrasing is to clarify the intention of the community is to be a women’s space; it is a women’s community that allows enbies who don’t identify as women to participate if they want

to be clear, you don’t have to be “woman-lite” to participate in the community - the rules explicitly allow non-women enbies to participate if they want to … however, it makes sense that being “woman-lite” would result in wanting to be a part of the women’s space - just wanted to clarify it’s not necessary

hey thanks! There’s no ill-will with OP, I have respect for how protective they are 💖 It was just a misunderstanding.

the policy doesn’t exclude non-binary people who don’t align with women, the policy explicitly allows non-binary people like you to decide for themselves whether they feel they belong or not in a women’s space … that is, the community is clear that it intends to be a women’s space, but it leaves the choice up to gender-diverse folks about whether they feel they belong or not - we won’t exclude a non-binary person who chooses to participate, and you are certainly welcome

this is a good idea, I’ll try to standardize a template for responses that includes the full language policy and clarifies, just in case to avoid confusion or accidental / unintended exclusion

yeah, this is pretty ironic - nobody trains their dog to fear men, dogs learn to fear men because of the way some men behave 🤦‍♀️

+1 for tofu! Seitan lunch meat is pretty tasty, too!

theoretically you could try a vegan version of egg and bacon sandwiches - Just Egg frozen patties aren’t half bad, and seitan bacons sometimes are OK

not sure if the idea is that you’re trying to reduce fats?

and fuck company towns

haha, yes - exactly! At least I got that reference, xkcd is pretty well known, though.

you might need to provide more context, what do you mean by mythology?

thank you for letting me in on the joke 😄

and for catching my error!

yeah, it’s funny how my brain collapsed the boolean check into if (role) rather than if (role === true) - that’s tricky

what is FILE_NOT_FOUND? I can’t find much on it …

I think the comic was supposed to inspire you to initiate a communist revolution 😄 for the cool shoes we will make, of course

oo, this reminds me of one of my favorite Existential Comics!

https://existentialcomics.com/comic/263

if it’s 'FILE_NOT_FOUND' then the string will be read as truthy and you will get 'User is admin' logged.

Honestly, desire is a justification on its own. If you have limited resources, then it’s really about whether you can afford to prioritize those desires or not. For those with enough money, desire is enough of a reason to justify a purchase.

Without enough money, the question is whether the desire outweighs other more practical ways that money could be spent. When I was depressed sometimes I would make irrational spending choices because it helped me feel good and even helped me pretend I was not as poor as I actually was, by spending the money irrationally I could create the illusion of having more money than I had. This was a dangerous game, though.

That all makes sense, desiring looking at something beautiful or attractive.

Re envy: that’s interesting, so you would like to be able to be like women in that you would like to be able to be beautiful, delicate, desirable and so on?

I think some men can be considered beautiful and desirable - I’m sure women would describe men like Pedro Pascal as being beautiful and desirable 😅 But I hear what you mean that in general women are seen as desired and men as the one desiring, in a sense. I think that’s largely social, though I do think estrogen does create traits that we might see as beautiful, such as soft skin, for example.

I guess I wonder if you have any examples of beautiful, delicate, or desirable men, and whether you would prefer to be that, or if you could press a button if you would just choose to have been born a woman instead?