Gotta find a non-patronizing way to ask if they need help, a hug, or to be heard.
That sucks. Definitely push the last one. This happened to me one time in band camp
That sucks but this reminds me of…
…and that’s how I became king of the pirates, well anyways you should invest into my NFT cryptoAI trust me bro this gonna go to the moon!
Good thing he has three things to push all the buttons with…
“that’s crazy”
There is a secret fourth option that requires the player to cancel the dialogue and just perform an action:
Give hug
That sucks.
The Paragon interrupt.
I prefer the renegade
Sadly, no one does that.
It’s the best option.
This is slowly being replaced by 👍ing or ❤️ing the message. No actual words needed.
👌
👍
I find that the variety of emotes people have available on discord say more than I probably would half-ass with words. At least with memes, if I’m having a conversation I will not be using emotes.
❤️
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Nice
Haha So True!
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Haha so true!
Haha so true!
Or maybe ask what they need from you? Just a thought.
It works spectacularly well with people you’re close to or on very good terms with.
If my other half is kicking off about something, a quick “hey listen, are you wanting help to fix this or are you wanting to vent like fuck to feel a bit better?”
It’s rarely the former, though I’d be more than happy to help if it was. At least then I can let her rage out and decompress without throwing in unwanted suggestions.
Probably comes across as a bit blunt to people you don’t know well though.
Glad my wife and I aren’t the only ones. It’s frustrating to explain why proposed solutions won’t work while already worked up over stressful bullshit. Sometimes there just aren’t real solutions. Sometimes you just need to open a pressure relief valve for a minute so you can have a little reset and be better equipped to tackle the mountain of bullshit.
That sucks.
And then what happened?
That must be really hard for you.
Wow. You don’t deserve that.
How do you feel about it now?
Ugh. That sounds awful.
You’re handling this better than I would.
How do you even respond to that?
Tell me about it.
What can I do to help?
You’ve got this, but I’m here.Edit: I wrote the above to illustrate how many options there are in the parlance of active listening. The formula is simple: imagine how they feel and join their side or, if you can’t yet imagine, ask questions until you can. That’s it.
Legend
Awesome list! Much better than a list I would make 🙂
I would just change slightly the “What can I do to help?” (That is a call for a “nothing”) to “How can I help?” (That shows much more enthusiasm in wanting to help)
Look at mister “I leave the basement twice a week” over here
In the land of the
blindawkward theone eyedI dunno less awkward I guess man is king
Thanks, man. I needed that.
“Frankly, you brought this all on yourself” usually resolves it quickly, in my experience.
Hello, we’d like to offer you a position as police chief in a neighborhood that will statistically have a school shooting soon.
Ah drawing aggro like a true tank.
That sucks.
“I’m sorry for your loss. Move on.”
“It’s not like you’ve lost a pen, is it? It’s so much worse… Would you like a pen? I have a spare one. …Please take it.”
I’m so sorry, here, it’s Cradle of Filth. It got me through some pretty bleak times.
All of them, this is a QuickTime event. You have to feel out what they’re looking for. You have to hit the buttons in order and with the right timing
First - that sucks. Show empathy and active listening, see if they have more to say. Let them get it out
Next - you have to decide, are they more upset, or more stressed
Upset - story time, show sympathy. Keep it light on the details, and don’t try to draw comparisons - keep it at the emotional level.
Then advice time - again, keep it brief and vagueStressed - advice, lay out options rapid fire and see if they latch onto any. If they don’t, story time - tell them about similar situations, without drawing emotional comparisons, where you got past it more easily than expected
“That’s rough buddy.”
Thanks zuko
That’s the answers for the attention hogs
Lol that’s basically a therapist, minus the second option.
You might need to try a different therapist.
“Cool story bro, did I ever tell you about that time I took an arrow to the knee?..”
“You know as someone who grew up with no food and a dirt floor I can relate. Growing up my mother died and I was often beaten by my father.”
Relateable, I once had a blanket that didn’t totally cover me. Toes or shoulder coverage only. We are truly brothers in suffering
