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Oh dang this almost perfectly explains me and my three friends
I am totally on the bottom right group.
My people
Our numbers are uncountable
Yeah, I’m in the void. I have no idea what I’m doing and I’m sad.
Us, too! You literally have no idea how many of us assholes are in here with you…
Hope you are well!
I highly encourage a therapist and ssri’s if you are not doing well.
They won’t make you happy but you won’t be suicidal!
Me too ! I’ve cut off all my former high school / college “friends” for various reasons. Deleted all my accounts. I don’t exist online under my legal name, and I like it that way.
- online only, never actually met (gaming, streams)
Cant disappear from social media if you really weren’t there to begin with.
Though i fall in the bottom left corner, always training, though not for something. Training just to train more.
I feel seen
Happy cake day!
Thank you!
What app you using?? Mine doesn’t show cake days!
Voyager - it’s great!
Downloaded and will check it out haha thanks!
trains rule tbf
Im both bottom left and bottom right, disappeared to train for nothing.
So you’re training for trainings sake too?
Well, I train because its good for my mental health, I think it counts?
Of course it counts, probably one of the best reasons to do it.
Friends?
We can say that we’re friends. That way we can have a friend.
I appreciate the offer but it could never work. I kinda hate robocalls.
It’s on tv all the time.
“Why did you leave Facebook? Now we can’t talk to you!”
they never spoke to you once on Facebook
Ain’t nobody got time for that. I’m too busy working / raising a family / training for a marathon / [comment deleted by user].
I think im all of these but less training for something than the other 3.
I am all of these to different people. None of them are particularly accurate though. For example, going to the gym twice a week makes me a trainer to the lazy ones, etc etc.
I see no reason why I can’t fill all of the quadrants, except for chronic lack of time
I can’t hit 30 friends, I only have 2
Obsessed with work is the most obnoxious type of person. It’s a validation seeking behavior that I find intolerable.
In general I agree but a few people are lucky enough to have jobs that are cool enough to be obsessed with. That doesn’t excuse them from being able to talk about other stuff with other people, but I think it’s fine for them to be that way. I work in some fairly advanced science facilities and some of the people I’ve met are working on stuff that’s crazy enough and difficult enough that you almost need to be a little obsessed to succeed at it.
We do the best we can with what we know at the time. We’re products of our parents and environments. You can’t blame somebody for that.
this goes for literally everything. Someone might still experience it as obnoxious and intolerable. Me included
I am with you on generally trying to understand the reasons for a particular behavior. Does not always help with being annoyed by it though. Especially if they apply their world view to everyone else around them and start to judge you for enjoying work/life balance
I’m all for understanding, but my line is drawn when the understanding fails to lead to action. My oldest friend still chooses validation seeking over all else, despite knowing that it’s the crux of all his problems and knowing he has the support of everyone, he’s adamant that it’s not on him to change and it’s on his support network to accept this as who he is and accommodate it even at their detriment. 24 years, I can’t handle that. I’m not willing to undo changes I made for my mental health to accommodate a lifestyle he’s admitted to being toxic.
But my job is awesome and I really enjoy it and I’d do it for free if I didn’t have to worry about money. I just want to share the fun fulfilling stuff I did with my friends :(
Luckily we’re all autistic enough to tell me off if they don’t want to hear about it.
Counterpoint, the best way to organize unions is to become obsessed with everything happening within your workplace
I am not sure I’ve ever met a labor organizer but I’ve definitely met vest guy who just wants to talk about his job and if I try and change the subject a bit they ask me about my job…
Bonus points if they start telling a story with names from their work as if I know them.
Bottom left. “Outrun the darkness” group.
No, I must disagree. Most of my friends are right in the centre. Many are starting families, but are also working on careers and are well intentioned gym goers who I speak to less and less because life is too busy.
How the fuck does anyone have the energy for all that?
I don’t have an answer for that. You just do what you have to do.
Work means surviving. You either have the energy for it or you’re fucked.
“Training” can be a fancy way of saying you are very focused on one aspect of athleticism for your health, and you’ll discover that you have more energy for other things if you maintain your health and exercise. At first you feel like you don’t have the energy for it, then you do it, then you have the energy for that and more.
Also many sleep way better after getting healthier, so it builds upon itself even more. Some people struggle with sleep apnea and shit like that, and one reason is the tongue holds a lot of fat. Lose weight and you sleep better. Sleep better and it’s easier to lose weight and have energy to do other stuff. It’s the opposite of a downward spiral.
Discipline. Basically.
Discipline, also known as ignoring basic needs until one burns out with a whole bunch of different outcomes from addictions to suicide
You sound like you need to learn discipline.
Sadly no, i had - and still have to - reduce it. I’ve always been proud of my discipline, but i never used it to take care of myself, but instead used to push myself harder than i was able to sustain long term (runs in the family too). Too much discipline isn’t a good thing, it becomes selfdestructive.
Discipline is a form of self care. I think you are conflating a method with outcome in that case. I’d argue that it takes discipline to take care of yourself AND others.
Healthy outlook you’ve got there…
They don’t do all equally well, and none are done above average.
Yeah I was about to say - I’m all of these things. I feel like that’s pretty common.
This is my experience, as well. It sounds like I’m a few years older than you, but almost everyone in my larger friend group is/was doing all of these things, particularly so if the bottom left is just “intensely focused on some new niche hobby.”
We know why. They’re dead.
from personal experience,
we just deleted our accounts once school/uni was over
and started new chapterThose exist too but I’m certain a dosen of them are in the ground.
The only one I can’t relate to at all is “start a family”.
Of all my friends from before I had kids (oldest is almost 10), none of them have kids.
Most of the couples among that group are all childless and are now either divorced, gay, or both.
To be fair, though, the gay ones were gay all along.
Proud member of the bottom right. Oddly, it has made me a big topic of conversation among my friends, and I don’t get that at all.
I don’t think that’s odd. People’s lives are boring and not much happens, it’s interesting to talk about unknowns.
It’s like that scene in good will hunting. The best part of my day is when I walk up to the door and imagine you just left.
How do you know this if you’ve disappeared? There are people like this in my life that no one has heard from in 20 years. Now that’s hardcore.
Meh, I’m not hardcore, I just don’t have social media and I don’t do weddings, birthdays, or anything involving children, so I pretty much just meet up with them at shows these days.
How are they in your life if you haven’t heard from them in 20 years?
Ok bad choice of words.They used to be in my life.
Now they’re dead in your basement.
That would explain a lot.
They’re in his basement. Nobody else has heard of them.
That IS hardcore!
